The phrase "how to keep house while drowning" refers to a compassionate, realistic approach to managing household tasks when life feels overwhelming, such as during mental health struggles, neurodivergence, or other hardships. It emphasizes reshaping housework as "care tasks" rather than chores tied to moral worth, prioritizing functionality and self-kindness over perfection. Key principles include:
- Accepting that care tasks are morally neutral and are ways to maintain a functional living space, not measures of personal value.
- Setting up the home to work for the individual’s needs and allowing rest even if everything isn't finished.
- Using methods like the "5 Things Tidying Method," which suggests focusing in a manageable order: removing trash, gathering dirty dishes, handling laundry clothes, putting things back in their places, and deciding what to keep or donate.
- Reducing anxiety and shame around house care, recognizing limits, and pacing tasks to avoid overwhelm.
- Prioritizing safety, health, and comfort over appearance, and allowing for "good enough" rather than perfection.
- Encouraging self-compassion and understanding that "rest is a right, not a reward" in managing home care.
This approach was popularized by KC Davis in the book "How to Keep House While Drowning," which offers practical tips and a philosophy for those struggling to maintain their homes amid personal challenges.
If needed, I can provide specific actionable steps or summaries from this approach.
